#Contradictory labels

[jeweledviolets]

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[anti-terf-posts]

btw this is a safe space for contradictory labels... lesbian men, gay women, lesgays, lesboys..... I lvoe You.

[errrr-vent-blog]

"wait but how can that work ?" instead of asking how their queer identity works, and how can it be valid, maybe ask them their experiences. ask how it feels to themself being a mspec mono, or lesboy, or turigirl, or whatever. instead of getting angry at queer identities which dont fit your standard, just perhaps let it go and ask them as a person what their identity means to them. stop policing identities and open up your mind a little.

[1tz-4ll-m3]

Supporting Lesboys means supporting:

1. Multigender Lesbian people using "Les" for their "Fem side" and "Boy" for their "Masc side"

2. GNC Women who like to be called "boy" for gender nonconformity

3. Trans Women and Transfems reclaiming being called a "boy"

4. Transmasc Lesbians reclaiming being called a "boy"

5. Trans Men who don't feel misgendered by the term "Lesbian" and/or feels like their attraction to women is still queer

6. He/Him lesbians reclaiming being called a "boy"

Support all of them, or support none of them.

[clownshrooms]

happy pride to everyone who uses "contradictory" labels. mspec lesbians, mspec gays, lesbigays, gaybians, velaurians, lesboys, turigirls, boygirls and girlboys, oriented aro/aces, cistrans ppl, and everyone else i didn't mention <3

[yourfavusescontradictorylabels]

YOU use contradictory labels (has this been done yet?)

YOU use contradictory labels!

[tgirlmouse]

i don't feel nearly as ashamed or hesitant to talk about my queer tgirl attraction to men as my tguy brothers would feel talking about their attraction to women

obligatory "if you're a trans guy and your attraction to women is het, that's real and okay! your trans experience isn't a monolith and other trans people being different doesn't make you different or wrong"

like, think about it: hardly anyone bats an eye when a tgirl uses grindr or calls herself a faggot, but as soon as a man calls himself a lesbian, everyone gets on his ass. anything for an excuse to shit on lesbians, i guess. it makes me angry that nobody sees this hypocrisy or these ties back to the lesbian separatism that infected the community post-70s. it's not gone, it never went away

this isn't exactly profound news to anyone who gives a shit about lesbian history. just something i find interesting

[thee-radio-host-is-a-kookaburra]

posting this on it's own

[dr-049]

”be who you are!” Mfs when they see someone being who they are:

[takethebunny-andrun]

Here's your sign to let your identity flow peacefully outside the box. Your personality is just a concept so it makes sense that your identity doesn't completely fit any man made constructs, and that's OK!! You don't have to use labels, or you can use them all!! You can use a label just because it feels just a little like you. You can use labels even if they contradict each other. You can let your identity pour out any social standard, and just exist, exist as it is fully and freely. We are all such complex creatures, living life as it is. As long as you aren't causing harm, just let yourself be YOURSELF!!

[sirenium]

'trans men have the lesbian label forced on them when they're heterosexual' and 'trans men can be lesbians' are concepts that do coexist. The point here, for anyone who may have missed it, is that identity is up to the individual and not what someone else decides for them, which includes forcing a trans man to identify as straight when they don't identify as such. You cannot be willing to dismantle the expectations of sex and gender without the will to let go of your little rules to sexuality. Things just happen that don't fit preconceived boxes, get over it.

[nuisancies]

CONTRADICTIM: A term for anyone who uses contradictory labels and terms. Anyone may use this label, as long as they use it in good faith.

I used a Dove as a symbol to represent freedom in identity and self expression.

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[toxic-codependent-yuri]

I wish everybody who thinks themself righteous enough to police other people's orientations and gender identity a very Grow Up It's Not 2016

[mr-weirdo-mcgee]

Unconventional relationships !!

[chronicallyleggless]

Lesboy userboxes! (Full pack)

[bilesproblems]

The queer community really normalized the words for fluidity and multigenderism but not the experiences at all.

I'm not the first to make this type of post, but I'm gonna go beyond just what the original said (and I'll edit this to include a link when I find the original again on my dash because it usually shows up once a week): we've normalize words like boygirl but most people haven't normalized actually being a boy and a girl, or a man and a woman, at the same time, and for fluidity they don't normalize actually being a boy or man and being a girl or woman at different times. Instead "boygirl" is just used like a label for androgyny or worse neutrality (nothing wrong with being neutral but being a boy and a girl is NOT that). We normalize the words bigender and genderfluid but never recognize them as actually having multiple genders. Bigender people are treated like half and half, and together androgynous or neutral instead of both of their genders at once, and genderfluid people are just seen like nonbinary people who use different pronouns and different times. We normalize the words but we don't normalize being sapphic and achillean, veldian and lesbian, a lesbian man or a veldian woman, straight and lesbian or straight and veldian. The things that are experienced by multigender people. We normalize the words but we don't allow bigender people to identify with anything other than "bigender" and we don't allow genderfluid people to identify with anything other than "genderfluid." If they want to label their orientations their options are mspec, trixic, toric, and enbian, and anything else is wrong. They're never allowed to say they're straight, and if they are allowed to be veldian/achillean or lesbian/sapphic (and they only get to pick one), they must degender themselves and pretend they don't experience womanhood or manhood.

Similarly, we normalize the word abrosexual but many don't allow abrosexuals to identify as anything but abro. They're not allowed to identify as any of the orientations they experience, even with some regularity. They might be allowed an mspec term - but they're never allowed to say they're veldians, or lesbians, and god forbid they identify as both. Even when they're experiencing being one of those things, it's not "allowed" for them to use the terms because the community deemed fluidity as not *really* the things they experienced because it's not permanent.

If we are gonna normalize the labels of multigender, genderfluid, and abrosexual can we actually get it in our heads that some people are multiple full genders at once, and if they're a man, a woman, and nonbinary, they are AS MUCH of a man as any monogender man, AS MUCH of a woman as any monogender woman, and JUST AS NONBINARY as any monogender enby? Can we get it though our heads that some people experience multiple full genders at different times, and they are AS MUCH of a man as any statically gendered man when they experience manhood, AS MUCH of a woman as any statically gendered woman when they experience womanhood, and JUST AS NONBINARY as any statically gendered enby when they experience enbanhood? Can we get it through our heads that some people experience multiple orientations at different times, and they are AS MUCH of a lesbian when they experience lesbianism, AS MUCH of a veldian when they experience veldianism, JUST AS STRAIGHT as any other straight person when they feel themselves straight, and JUST AS MSPEC when they experience attraction to multiple genders?

(there's also people who experience multiple orientations at once, statically, but we haven't even been normalized yet so. Yeah.)